Marriage: Half of the religion of Islam

Marriage: Half of the religion of Islam

I have a strange observation. Speaking of boys, I have no idea about girls. Conscious boys start getting married at a certain age. Those who are unable to get married on time become disinterested in getting married after the deadline, and many delay their marriage on the pretext of being established, arranging everything and managing adequate savings. I am very interested in what could be the psychological reason behind this. But the thing that is working in my case is that I have failed to explain to my parents the reality, the Qur'an, the Hadith, the argument, etc. Not only did that fail, but in their eyes I was now a villain. They think I'm crazy! Irresponsible boy. Anyway, I decided to be patient so that the so-called rudeness would not happen and they would not feel hurt. That period of patience is not over yet. I don't know how long it will last, I don't want to know. At the moment I am 29 years old and I am just a few months old. Day by day seriously my desire to get married is dying terribly. This is because it is a simple calculation, the calculation is in the midst of the scattering of sex in this society, where you can satisfy your sexual desire in different ways if you want, no one will know, will not understand. Akam will go to Kukam and attend the mosque daily. Diameter! There is no better boy in the world like you. But when you talk about marriage, it ends. Along with the titles of rudeness, shameless arrogance, etc., everyone will fall in love. In such a society I have spent almost thirty years of my life. This includes the most risky times in my character in thirty years. Between the ages of eighteen and thirty, we have a time when we have to face sexually provocative objects at every moment, whether we get up, sit down, walk, sing or not. And this is when our self-control is weakest. It is at this terrible time in our lives that marriage becomes so important to those of us who are character conscious. But at this time, going to a forbidden village and quenching all thirst through haraam deeds and pretending to be a khokababu in the eyes of the society is as easy as maintaining one's character by expressing one's desire to do a halal deed (marriage) is a thousand times more difficult. For one thing, talking or thinking about marriage at this age, whether a scholar or a tyrant, is an extremely reprehensible act in the eyes of all parents. The matter is not only ridiculous but also more intimate. Such behavior is in no way appropriate for parents who claim to understand everything on their own. So standing in the early stages of 29 years I see that I have already passed the most risky time of my life, and that time was by no means free from sin and filth. On the contrary, there is no doubt that I will not be saved from the fire of Hell unless Allah forgives me for all the sins I have committed in this perilous life. Now if I live an average life of 70 years in Bangladesh, then thirty years have already passed from there. And for the next ten years, out of the remaining thirty years, there is no threat to my character. Twenty years left. In these twenty years, there is no possibility of a recurrence of an extremely risky period, at least from eighteen to thirty. So the risk-full time for my character cleanliness has already passed. Now, when the question of marriage arises, it will be centered on the necessity of procreation, as well as social customs. But the question is, were these more important than a beautiful character? Another thing is that the past 29 years of living an independent life, endless time, seeing this world of color and building a beautiful welfare society against all injustices have been the focus of my dreams and plans. Isn't it a waste of time for me to get married in order to spend endless time? When I have so many things to do, why should I waste my time trying to get married and start a new family? Because 100% of the youth in the society like me will get married at some point in their life, start a family and have a family but the idea of ​​building a welfare society will only work in the heads of a few of them. If only a handful of these people come in their thirties and get married and become fertilized with time behind the family, then who will do the work of building a welfare society? My father got married in college life, we are six brothers and sisters. Abu's age will not be more than sixty. He is still quite strong and efficient. At that time, he will see our brothers and sisters stand on their own two feet in a couple of years. He will then be able to focus on his own ideological work as he pleases. Allah has bestowed this extraordinary blessing on my father to get married earlier. But I'm wondering, if I get married at the age of 30, I have to spend sixty years to get my eldest child to stand on my own two feet, what will happen to the 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th children? I have to leave them in the hands of uncertainty and enter a life of disability. When I can see it clearly in this moment, what sadness will I have in marriage? All in all, as I have spent the last four years, various logical aspects of getting married at least before the age of twenty-five in order to maintain the character purity of the youth society.